Secret to being successful at Anything! #2

Once you have begun to think in a new more positive way and specifically focused your energies on what you want to achieve, you will need to develop the motivation to do something about it.  You see, making real changes is uncomfortable.  It isn’t necessarily difficult, in fact it may be EASIER than what you are doing right now, but the fact is that it is an unknown.  Just like wearing a new pair of shoes for the first time, changing your thoughts and behaviors to that of a successful person may be just plain uncomfortable at first.  After you have worn the shoes long enough, they mold themselves to your feet and feel like they are a part of you.  Thinking and acting as a successful person will also become a natural part of you, but you must “wear” it in first.  Many people at the first sign of discomfort will return the shoes or cast them into the back of the closet never to be worn again.  Success is much the same; at the first sign of discomfort many people just abandon their goals and dreams and decide to settle for their life of mediocrity; their old worn-out pair of shoes.  In fact, this is what 95% of people do and the reason that only 5% of people ever rise above and achieve a wealthy, comfortable life-style.

You will need to find a motivation so strong that no matter how uncomfortable this new pair of shoes is, you will keep wearing them until they are worn in.  If you are a parent, maybe being able to provide a life for your children so that they never have to go without food or a decent pair of shoes that don’t have holes in them will motivate you.   Maybe it is the memory of a deceased loved one that always believed in you and you don’t want to let them down.  Maybe you want to prove to all the people that told you that you would never amount to anything that they were wrong.  Whatever it is, your motivation, your “why” has to be stronger than any discomfort or pain that would keep you from doing the things you need to do to become successful.  It needs to be stronger than your fear of looking stupid.  Stronger than your fear of failing.  Stronger than the voices telling you to give up because this isn’t going to work for you.

What is your motivation?

Your motivation, your “why” should be at the forefront of your mind through every trial and every challenge that you face.  When the world gives you a thousand reasons to quit, your “why” needs to be a thousand times stronger.  Your why is going to be the difference between success and sameness, between greatness and the ordinary.   Your “why” will keep you going when others have turned away.  When your will to succeed becomes as strong as your will to stay alive, nothing will stop you from achieving it.  I mean if someone put a pillow over your face and tried to stop you from breathing, you would fight.  You would do whatever it took to get air and stay alive.  If someone (even if it is you) or something tries to stop you from achieving success, you need to be able to fight for it.

Even when there is not a person or unknown force actively trying to stop you there is always the possibility of becoming complacent; of sitting back with the rest of the 95% and doing nothing.  After all, it’s not that bad, right?  Your motivation needs to be strong enough to make you uncomfortable settling for less than you deserve.

Your motivation is the fuel that keeps the fire burning, without it there will be nothing but a spark.

Samuel Fitzpatrick

http://www.selebrian.com

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